What’s it like to be a full-time introvert and part-time shy?


For a long time, this adjective was troubling me. I felt like there was something wrong with me.

Why am I not able to participate in class even though I know the answer?

Why am I not enjoying small talks?

Why do I prefer to be alone instead of going out to nightclubs?

With time, I understood that there was nothing wrong with me:

I’m a full-time introvert

What does it mean?

It means that:

  • You’re not craving for social interaction although you love hanging out with a couple of friends;
  • You don’t like small talk but you’re a great listener and enjoy deep conversations;
  • Sometimes you refuse to join a party because it drains so much your energy that you’d rather stay alone at home and read a book or watch a TV show (like Breaking Bad, best TV show ever ^^).

And I’m a part-time shy

You don’t like to be in the center of attention.

When I’m forced to it, for example, when doing a presentation, I’m feeling nervous and I start to imagine all kind of disastrous scenarios that are most unlikely to happen.

I remember 2 years ago I had to do my first presentation in English at work. It was not that big of a deal, it was like 10 min presentation. Nevertheless, I slept like nothing the night before and I felt like puking right before starting it.

In the end, all went well. I had colleagues who congratulated me and, as a perfectionist, it took me time to give myself some credit and to realize how proud I was to overcome my shyness.

But when it’s taking me by surprise, I’m speechless and I believe that anything that would come out of my mouth is total bullshit. So I just shut up and I feel so dumb…

It happened to me recently. Someone I barely knew asked me what type of coaching I was doing. My heart was pounding so fast and my voice was nowhere to be found. All I could do was to look to my boyfriend in complete desperation like “please help me here!”

Did I feel dumb?

Hell, yeah.

Did I feel sorry for myself?

No. Instead of blaming myself for being a shy person I decided to get ready for the next time someone would ask me that question.

I know that I’m shy but I don’t make it an excuse to just sit there and do nothing.

I guess that’s one of my strengths as being a full-time introvert and part-time shy.

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