I believe people should learn to quit in life. Since we’re born we have been told to “Never give up!”…
5 magic tricks to attract the love of your life
After jumping from relationship to another for a looooong time, I decided that I needed a break.
Why couldn’t I find the love of my life?
What was wrong with me?
Was I sabotaging myself?
The thing is, I was always repeating the same pattern: the guy would be nice to me, he would kiss me and then I would say “He’s The One!” (I was so naive, I know). I would break up after few months and then here we go again!
A break was indeed needed.
I worked hard on me to find out what changes could bring me on the way of my prince charming, and it worked! 🙂
If you too are kind of the same specimen as me, here are my 5 magic tricks to find the love of your life:
1. Stop waiting for him/her
Yes I know you already heard that one. Me too. But it’s true.
Stop expecting the love of your life to knock at your door just by magic.
Instead, the first thing you should consider is to…
2. Learn to love yourself
Let me ask you a question: Do you love yourself?
To check it simply, just stand up in front of a mirror and look deeply into your eyes, deep breathly and say: I LOVE YOU.
Have you done it?
How did you feel?
If you felt uncomfortable doing this exercise, I suggest you to move on to the next step.
3. Know yourself by heart
If you don’t love yourself yet, maybe it’s because you don’t know yourself enough.
What are your passions? Your fears? Your dreams?
I remember asking my friends those questions and few of them could answer me. And when I asked why? The common answer is that they don’t take time to reflect on their life.
Nowadays, we are so busy with our work, friends, family, social medias, that we forget about ourselves.
If you were to talk to your 10-years-old-self, how do you think would he/she react to his/her future-self?
4. Do what you love
By doing consistently the things that you love, you will bring more and more positive energy in your life. And I can guarantee you that your friends and family will see the difference. Trust me 🙂
Last year, I remember I was so down that I started to read some motivational and inspirational quotes. Then it lead me to read articles about personal development. I would do the exercises to know myself better and to know what I truly love. And it turned out that I love to cheer people up! ^^
When I started to talk about my idea about coaching people, my closest friends could see how passionate I was (and still am) about that. My happiness and excitement was so contagious that people would start to dream again (true story!).
Nevertheless, if you don’t know what you love, don’t worry.
Just try different activities, read, get some inspiration by asking your friends what are their passions. But overall, keep looking for what you love to do. It will be worth it.
5. Clearly define a picture of your ideal partner
The final step is to define a clear picture of the love of your life. Here are some of the questions I asked myself few months ago.
- What are his/her qualities? Weaknesses? Passions? Mindset? Hobbies?
- Physically, how does he/she look like? What type of clothes is he/she wearing?
- What is his/her financial situation?
- Which type of career is he/she following?
- Which music is he/she listening to?
- Which movies does he/she like?
Don’t be afraid to be too specific.
You don’t want to settle down for less, right? 🙂
Once you’ll follow all these steps, just let it go and let the magic unfolds right before your eyes.
I found my loved one while traveling in South America. I wasn’t expecting anything, yet we found each other on my first night in Brazil in a samba party. What a cliché! (I know ^^)
We felt attracted to each other on our second night when we realize that we had the same mindset and the same goal in life: be free to do the things we love.